In Montreal, in particular, the Professional Dommes (Mistresses/Dominatrixes) have had to lower rates horrendously, and as well have lost out to both escorts and massage parlours. Once just a few years ago able to charge $250-$300 an hour, they have lowered to $80-$140 an hour on average because of both escort services and massage parlours offering “BDSM services”.
Why go to a Pro Domme when you can go to a massage parlour for $50-$60 and even get a “handy”?
I’ll tell you why.
You put your health, safety and even, yes, LIFE on the line with them, whereas Pro Dommes who are actually worth their salt the risk is so low as to be negligible. The girls in the massage parlours or escort agencies (and independents) do NOT know a single thing about how to do things safely, how to reduce risk, etc, and often do things that are in fact NOT what BDSM is.
When you pay the fee for a Pro Domme, sure, 99% of the time you won’t get off sexually. That is NOT the point. You are paying for their experience, capabilities, specialties, etc, and well gear and costumes etc DO cost a lot as well!
When choosing a Pro Domme, find out how long they have been doing it (hint a 21 year old wearing latex is very likely NOT experienced, just good looking). Pay for the experience, not how young or beautiful. Even place “trick questions” to see their response. Ask for instance “I love having my lower back hit really hard”. They say “ok no problem” – RUN RUN RUN. (Kidneys etc.. hello???). Don’t just go book because she has a cool ad/website and she is young and hot. I see farrrrrr too many who are just the “S and M” type, and not what you think – the “Stand and Model” type. They are 20-30 years old, never mentored, never learned, just look hot and have tons of latex or leather etc.
Don’t put yourself at risk. Go for those who actually KNOW this stuff, and live the lifestyle (most Pro Dommes do, those that are Pro only I do question a bit). An escort or massage parlour is too dangerous on too many levels. Get the session with someone who knows, pay the fee, and if you need to cum, do it back home thinking of the session and how good it actually was). Otherwise if you want sex and BDSM and with a helluva lot of risk reduction, get off your ass, get out there, get known, talk, communicate, be patient and boom it will happen.